Meet Lizzie Wren: Author and fellow traveler

Welcome to my world. Here, you will find a glimpse into my life, my motivations, and the heart behind my writing. I invite you to discover the person behind the words, my journey, and what truly inspires me.

My journey: From ordinary beginnings to a life of words

What I most want people to know about me is that I am genuinely ordinary, still becoming the person I write about, and nowhere near as far along in the practice as the book might suggest. I grew up in a small town in Ohio where winters were long and decent people were quietly decent to each other without occasion or audience. That early environment gave me a baseline expectation of genuine care between people that I have spent most of my adult life trying to live up to and frequently falling short of. The writing is not separate from the living. I still perform kindness sometimes when I am too depleted for the genuine version, still find it easier to be generous with strangers than with the people closest to me on the days when closeness feels like pressure, and still have to choose contemplation every single morning, and do not always manage it. I am a reader first, a writer second, and a work in progress always, and the book did not come from certainty or expertise or having figured everything out.

The kindness habit: My proudest creation

The Kindness Habit is the book I am most proud of because it is one of the most honest things I have ever written, and honesty in this particular subject required a kind of courage I was not entirely sure I had when I started. What makes it special to me is that it lives at the intersection of the two things I care most about: science, which is real and robust and genuinely surprising, and the ordinary daily human struggle to be the person you mean to be when the day is long and the reserves are low. I wanted to write something rigorous without being cold, and warm without being soft, and I think, on the days when I am willing to be honest about it, that this is that book.

My hope for you: A journey of practice, not perfection

I hope readers finish my books feeling less like a person who has failed at kindness, or stillness, or peace, and more like a person who has simply not yet built the habit. The research genuinely surprised me when I first encountered it, and I want that surprise to land for readers too: that the qualities we most want in our lives, genuine compassion, real presence, and quiet contentment, are not personality traits you either have or you do not. They are practices. Buildable, sustainable, and available to anyone willing to show up for thirty days with honesty and without self-judgment. More than anything, I hope readers close my books knowing that the gap between who they mean to be and who they actually are on an ordinary Tuesday is not a verdict. It is simply a starting point.

"Lizzie Wren's words are a comforting guide, reminding us that kindness is a journey, not a destination."

A devoted reader